I spent nearly $40,000 at seminars. At these seminars, the speaker would say people who are motivated enough will succeed and people who fail have only themselves to blame. I am a strong believer of accountability and believed them absolutely. I purchased their classes and failed, repeatedly. Now I understand there are multiple aspects to change a person’s behavior, not only personal motivation. No wonder seminars have such a tiny success rate! I recently read Influencer which goes into depth, with scientific studies and examples from society and history, explaining the behavior of change, and I thank the Lord for the leaders I have who are aware of this priceless knowledge.
My guide gave me the life-changing wisdom that my former boyfriend did not value me because I did not value myself. The truth is difficult. Yet putting the responsibility and accountability in my hands empowered me. I learned to value myself – not an easy lesson. I now practice the self-value exercises from the MKE and they have become habits. I look in the mirror and say, “I love you, Julie.” I use Charles Haanel’s affirmation, “I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving harmonious, and happy.” Dr. Taylor Hartman asked the question in his book, “How can you tell if you value yourself?” and answered one way to tell is if you do things for yourself. I now have hobbies! New Julie has hobbies! My growth in the area of self-value is so extensive that I feel like a new person. Thank you to my guide and friend for giving me his wisdom and honesty.
Starting over, at the very beginning of the Master Key by Charles Haanel, I recently read, “…we must “be” before we can “do,” and we can “do,” only to the extent which we “are,” and what we “are” depends upon what we “think” (MKE 1-4).
This lesson hit home when Mark J. used the term “goal post moving” to describe always putting your goals higher and higher and never reaching them. I did that for many years. Each time I hit a goal I immediately (within seconds) set the higher goal which I had prepared already before reaching the first goal.
Related to this was the God-inspired lesson from the MKE to give myself permission to be happy. These lessons all come together beautifully. I must be happy now, if I am to have happiness in the future. I will not suddenly become happy when I reach a certain goal. I thank the Lord and am so grateful for this lesson.
I always love scientific evidence and support.
24-2: We speak of a bell as a “sounding body,” yet we know that all the bell can do is to produce vibrations in the air. When these vibrations come at the rate of sixteen a second they cause a sound to be heard in the ind. It is possible for the mind to hear vibrations at the rate of 38,000 a second. When the number increases beyond this, all is silence again; so that we know that the sound is not in the bell, it is in our own mind.
24-3: We speak and even think of the Sun as “giving light.” Yet we know it is simply giving forth energy which produces vibrations in the ether at the rate of four hundred trillion a second, causing what are termed light waves, so that we know that what we call light is simply a form of energy and that the only light there is, is the sensation caused in the mind by the motion of waves. When the number increases, the light changes in color, each change in color being caused by shorter and more rapid vibrations; so that although we speak of the rose as being red, the grass as being green, or the sky as being blue, we know that the colors exist only in our minds and are the sensations experienced by us as the result of the vibrations of light waves. When the vibrations are reduced below four hundred trillion a second, they no longer affect us as light, but we experience the sensation of heat. It is evident, therefore, that we cannot depend upon the evidence of the senses for our information concerning the realities of things; if we did we should believe that the sun moved, that the world was flat instead of round, that the stars were bits of light instead of vast suns.
Our philosophers (Wattles, Nightingale, and Haanel) agree that our dharma can take time to manifest.
Wallace D. Wattles in The Science of Getting Rich: Never allow yourself to feel disappointed… You may expect to have a certain thing at a certain time and not get it at that time, and this will appear to you like failure. But if you hold to your faith you will find that the failure is only apparent…. You will receive something so much better that you will see that the seeming failure was really a great success.
Earl Nightingale in The Strangest Secret: Think about it in a cheerful, relaxed, positive way each morning…
Haanel Part 19-22: …why not take the time to assimilate your mental food?
Last weekend, I read The People Code (formerly The Color Code) and am now reading the next book, The Character Code, both by Dr. Taylor Hartman. He explains the necessity of self-value for people who want to grow to their full potential and become “charactered.” I want to grow to my full potential. I want to be “charactered.” Therefore, I must learn to value myself. He asks, “How do you know if you value yourself?” He answers that one way to tell is if you live for the day – a perfect tie in with Og Mandino’s scroll number five! “I live this day as if it is my last!” If we live in the moment, it is an indication that we value ourselves!
Thank goodness this course teaches self-directed thinking, so I am able to separate what I believe from what Haanel teaches.
The part of week 22’s reading that I love is:
22-1 Knowledge is of priceless value because by applying knowledge we can make our future what we wish it to be. When we realize that our present character, our present environment, our present ability, our present physical condition are all the result of past methods of thinking, we shall begin to have some conception of the value of knowledge.
21-13: …therefore, if we wish a change in conditions all that is necessary is to change our thought; this will in turn change our mental attitude, which will in turn change our personality, which will in turn change the persons, things and conditions, or, the experiences with which we meet in life.
21-14: It is, however, no easy matter to change the mental attitude. …create new pictures; this is the art of visualization.
20-4: Thinking is the true business of life; power is the result.
20-9: But perception will come only in the Silence… You are a visualizing entity. Imagination is your workshop.
20-14: To become inspired means to get out of the beaten path.
20-20: We can live more abundantly every time we breathe.
20-28: Every time you think you start a train of causation which will create a condition in strict accordance with the quality of the thought which originated it.
20-31: “In him we live and move and have our being” is literally and scientifically exact!
I understand the grief and loss that Mark J spoke about a few weeks ago regarding the death of our old selves. Letting go includes sadness and for me pain as well. Yet the feeling of my new self is alluring, like the golden Buddha story, and I want more… so much more! I anticipate the growth and development awaiting me in my future.